I know this might not sound like your typical New Year’s resolution. Just hear me out. If 2017 has taught me anything, it is that I need to set up clearer boundaries. I’ve learned it’s okay to say no. It’s okay to stand up for yourself. It’s okay to not be a people pleaser. I think all of my years working as a customer service representative is to blame. I have been taught to be accommodating, adjustable, flexible, and adaptable.
So when should you stop being nice? When it impacts your emotional well-being. When you are no longer focused on your mental health because you place others’ needs before your own.
2017 has taught me to put myself first. That no one will treat me better than I treat myself. You teach people how to treat you. If you are constantly giving in or giving over to someone else’s agenda, motive, and plan, a small piece of you is chipping away. Those that can, will start to take advantage of you.
God did not create you to be mishandled, used and abused. Let go of anyone who doesn’t value your worth.
Matthew 7:6 says “Do not give what is holy to dogs, and do not throw your pearls before swine, or they will trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.” (NASB)
You have to discover who the dogs and the swine are in your life. They will tear you to pieces because they can’t understand the value of a good thing. They don’t appreciate your willingness to be dedicated or consecrated to God. They don’t appreciate the fact that you try to treat others as you would like to be treated. They won’t appreciate all the good deeds you performed for them and your efforts to be more Christ-like.
Let’s face it no one respects a push over. Sometimes you have to be mean and stand up for yourself. You have to realize your thoughts and opinions matter. You have to realize that you matter. You have to realize your worth. When you discover who you truly are, you will not have time for mess. You will say what you mean, and mean what you say.
You don’t have to behave in a nasty, disrespectful or obnoxious manner. You just have to let your voice be heard so no one will feel they have the right to violate, abuse or mistreat you in anyway, shape or form. So I’m saving my niceness for people who will appreciate it. Happy New Year everyone. Let’s make 2018 a great one!